Press for progress. Press for progress. Press for progress.
I replay the words in my mind–this year’s Women’s Day campaign. I let it sink in.
How can I help advocate for myself, for women around the globe and press for progress?
I don’t have that answer. But, I know what I need to do to stand taller… as a woman and as a young professional.
I am starting small, with just myself–although it’s actually a very big task when you think about it. I’m pressing for progress by changing the way my brain operates. You may be stumped. What does that even mean?
It means… I’m not sorry.
Kind of depressing when you think about it. My answer to A LOT of things is “I’m sorry.” But did I even do something to warrant an apology? Most often than not, the answer is no.
According to a New York Times article, a common theory for the incessant apologizing is that “being perceived as rude is so abhorrent to women that we need to make ourselves less obtrusive before we speak up.” The article quotes from a 2010 study in the journal Psychological Science, “women have a lower threshold for what constitutes offensive behavior.”
Maybe that’s true. But what’s not true are my apologies…
So, I’m pressing for progress for myself. I am challenging myself to stop. Stop saying sorry. Will this make women’s wages go up or help eliminate other gender inequalities? No, probably not. But it’s a step forward.
I challenge you to break the automatic behavior with me. Let’s change the way our brain thinks by thinking before we speak, by being aware of what we need to communicate versus what spills out of our mouths. Let’s stand taller and prouder… and most importantly, let’s not be sorry.